Grief
16 guides on Grief, from choosing flowers to getting them placed.
Planning & How-To
Visiting a Grave: What to Bring, What to Do There and How Long to Stay
A practical guide to visiting a grave: what to pack, how to find it, what people actually do once they are there, what to say, how long to stay, and how to leave it.
Remembering From Afar
Supporting a Grieving Parent From Far Away
Practical, gentle ways to support a mother or father after a death when you live in another city or state: staying in touch, the hard dates, and the grave.
Holidays & Occasions
The First Christmas Without Them: Ways to Honor Someone at the Grave and at Home
Gentle ideas for the first Christmas after a death: at the grave, at home, and from far away, with when to plan holiday flowers so they arrive in time.
Remembering From Afar
The First Thanksgiving After a Loss: Ways to Remember Them
The first Thanksgiving without someone is hard. Gentle ways to include them in the day, at the table and at the grave, especially if you live far away.
Remembering From Afar
The First Year After a Death: The Dates That Will Hurt, and What to Do at Each
A calendar for the first year of grief: the birthday, the holidays, the first visit, the anniversary. What each date tends to feel like and one concrete thing to do at the grave for each.
What to Put on a Grave
What to Write on the Card With Flowers for a Grave
Short, specific and in your own voice. Messages for a parent, a spouse, a child, a friend's loved one, a birthday, an anniversary and the holidays, with examples you can use as they are or change.
Remembering From Afar
The First Visit to a Grave After the Burial: What to Expect and What to Bring
The first visit back is different from the funeral. What the grave will look like, when the headstone arrives, what to bring, and how to make the visit something you can do again.
What to Put on a Grave
Flowers for a Child's Grave: Gentle Choices and Keeping the Dates
A child's grave is tended differently, and for longer. What parents place, what friends can send, the dates that matter, and how to keep them when the cemetery is far away.
Remembering From Afar
Sending Flowers to a Grave for a Friend: When Their Loved One's Grave Is Far From You Both
How to send flowers to the grave of a friend's parent, spouse or child, what information you need, what to write, and why the delivery photo should go to your friend.
Remembering From Afar
What to Do With Funeral Flowers After the Service
What to do with funeral flowers after the service: the casket spray, what to leave at the grave, how to dry or press them, and where to give the rest.
Holidays & Occasions
Birthday Flowers for a Grave: Keeping the Day After Someone Is Gone
Marking a birthday at the grave is one of the most common reasons families send flowers. What to choose, what to write, and how to make sure it happens every year.
Remembering From Afar
When You Can't Visit a Grave: Seven Ways to Care for It From Far Away
Distance, health, cost or time keep many people from the graves they care about. Practical ways to tend a grave you cannot get to, from remote flower placement to photos, records and cleaning.
Holidays & Occasions
Flowers on the Anniversary of a Death: What to Send and How to Mark the Day
The best flowers for a death anniversary, from the first year on: which kinds and colors families choose, what to place at the grave, and how to mark the day.
Remembering From Afar
A Sympathy Gift After the Funeral: What to Send When the Flowers Have Stopped
The hardest weeks of grief come after the funeral, when the support fades. Thoughtful sympathy gifts for a month, three months or a year later, including flowers placed at the grave.
Holidays & Occasions
Valentine's Day Flowers for a Grave: Roses for a Spouse Who Is Gone
For a widow or widower, Valentine's Day is one of the hardest dates. What to place at a spouse's grave, why silk roses in February, and how families support a grieving parent that week.
Holidays & Occasions
Wedding Anniversary Flowers at a Grave: Keeping the Date After Losing a Spouse
The wedding anniversary is the date a widow or widower marks most privately. How to place flowers at a spouse's grave for it, what to choose, and how children can help.